I never thought
I’d get divorced.
I believed in marriage.
I never thought I’d get divorced. I believed in marriage.
I believed there would be good times and bad.
That the bad times were there to work through together.
I used to think that divorce was for people who didn’t try.
I didn’t believe in divorce unless of course there was abuse – then quite frankly that’s a no-brainer (and I recognise it’s easier said than done).
Yet here I am, divorced after 23 years of being with a man with whom I raised our now adult children, supported his corporate career, and loved deeply.
Here’s where I failed…
I believed in marriage to my detriment.
I valued marriage above my own well-being and happiness.
I believed in marriage no matter what, for life.
But I’d forgotten about myself and that is where I failed.
The moment I realised I was important too and things weren’t going to change, that is when I understood how marriages end.
One of my clients said it beautifully
“Alice, I chose myself that day.”
My journey from that moment has been a mix of heart-wrenching grief, worrying about how I was going to survive, and trying like all buggery to stay positive and focus on the future.
And I’ve made it.
I’m doing adulting all on my own. Happily (well, mostly – cos adulting sucks sometimes).
I do work that I love and live a peaceful life. I own my own home, am financially independent, and live with my 7-year-old rescue dog Abbey.
Looking back over the journey, I wish I had someone to bring all the practical, emotional, and energetic elements together.
Someone who was independent, uplifting, and knew what it was like.
I pulled together my own team back then – lawyers, finance people, my doctor, psych, did courses, hired coaches, read books, and so much more. It would have been so much easier if someone had pulled it all together for me.
So that’s what I’ve done for you.
I’ve pulled together tools from my background in psychology, years of involvement in coaching and personal development, and my lived experience to create a unique program to help you confidently rebuild and create your own future filled with fun, success, and freedom.
So that you don’t have to.
I’ll work with you to design a personalised program to help you heal, bring joy back into your life, and plan for the future even on those days when you feel like giving up.
You probably never thought you’d get divorced either, yet here we are.
It’s time to focus on your own well-being and happiness. If I can make it easier for you, I will.